In terms of love and relationships, it seems that we are attracted to the physical qualities of others that symbolically represent what we want to see within our own souls. The people we find attractive are just living representations of the way we want our souls to be.
For example, a man looks at a woman and sees in her the ideal for his own soul. Deep down he wants his soul to be receptive to God the same way a woman is receptive to having his erect penis inside her body. He wants his soul to be like her vagina, ready to receive whatever God has in store for him. He truly wants to stop being selfish and be more selflessly loving, like the heart of a woman is loving when she is linked with the right man.
Remember that the Soul is feminine in nature. It receives from God the Source, which is masculine in nature. One spiritual tradition holds that the ideal spiritually enlightened man is “negative to God and positive to all else”. Viewed from a slightly skewed perspective, a man truly wants to be “gay for God” to use an slightly inaccurate phrase. This inaccuracy results from the fact that a spiritual man need not be homosexual to find God or connect to the Source. All he need do is to let his heart, his soul be receptive to God, so he can truly be a real man who projects God thru himself instead of being a needy wimp who will sacrifice his free will just to be able to have sex with a woman.
If a man connected to God on this Soul level, he would find a deep fulfillment that can hardly be expressed in words. Once connected to God, if the right woman comes along he can decide whether or not to allow her into his life. Then and only then does a relationship and sex truly become a choice that brings happiness, instead of a shaky bargain that breeds contempt.
For a woman the situation is different. A woman looks at a man and deep down she wants to be as positive and projective as she sees him to be. A woman is already receptive on the physical level—no problem there. But on a Soul level, her own soul is actually the same as that of a man—feminine. If she chooses, she can make strides to connect to God within herself and become enlightened through her own efforts. This is one and the same as the practice of Christian nuns who “marry Christ”. These spiritually assertive women are rare indeed, as most are programmed at every level and from every direction to marry and reproduce.
But for the rest of the female population, the ideal spiritual relationship declares that a woman is to attach herself to an enlightened spiritual man that is capable of channeling God through himself, of channeling the Divine Fire she so desperately needs within, so her soul can be fulfilled.
Only a spiritual man truly has no need to have a relationship or sex with a woman. Only because of his connection to his Almighty Source from which he receives everything he needs can he truly provide what the woman needs. He sees in her his own soul on the physical level. If she is lacking something, he can provide it to her instead of selfishly trying to get something from her, (as most men behave), or giving in to her unreasonable, selfish demands (again, as most men behave).
Again, we see in the opposite what we want and need to be on the inside. Men want to be as receptive and loving as a woman who is in love, and women want to be full of the positive divine energy that comes from a man connected to the Source of Love.
