AGAINST TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE or PROSTITUTION IS FINE
Marriage has turned women into legalized prostitutes. Don’t look so shocked! Get over yourself! What is marriage if not a very long term encounter with a prostitute which is legally sanctioned by the government? Think about it.
Look at the traditional scenario. Boy meets girl. Boy and girl spend time with each other. If all goes well, they negotiate for more time together. They begin dating. Traditionally, boy is then expected to pay for drinks, dinner, movies, hotel rooms, and any other activities which the couple engages in. Then follows engagement, marriage, and then finally they have sex (being traditional, remember?).
Or perhaps the couple is more modern and they begin screwing before marriage. Either way, the man is generally expected to provide funding for all activities. And either way, the woman is selling herself just like a prostitute—no debate, no discussion, end of argument.
In the case of traditional prostitution, the woman eschews drinks, dinner, movies and all other related activities associated with dating and courtship, and instead chooses the option of personally having the money that would have been otherwise used for the above courtship activities. The “deal” is agreed upon in a much more timely fashion.
The secret difference between the married woman and the prostitute is that the wife is totally oblivious to a simple truth which is obvious to the prostitute—the prostitute knows full well that she is selling herself, while the wife would never suspect that she is also a hooker. Seen from this perspective, the woman of the night is by a wide margin the more intelligent of the two women.
And yet our society condones marriage while debasing prostitution. Why is it that we punish women of the night? Is it because they are so intelligent? For simply realizing their own power and using it to exploit a man, draining his bank account? What is so wrong about doing it in a hurry as opposed to doing it slowly over a long time within the confines of a legalized and state sanctioned form of prostitution that is undoubtedly doomed to fail?
In either situation, the central modus operandi is selfishness. The boy wants sex. The woman wants material security. Is there any legitimate reason why boys and girls cannot engage in this altogether loveless business transaction? Don’t make the mistake of thinking that a marriage license and a wedding ring are guarantees of love. They are just symbols of love. Love is otherwise missing. I mean, really…does anyone actually think that Love is present in either scenario? Can anyone show me where is the Love in such a traditional marriage? From whence does it shine in such a slow and legalized form of pay-for-sex? Why do marriages fail so often these days? Isn’t it perhaps because there is no love in prostitution, legalized or otherwise? It just takes longer for the marriage partners to realize they have been engaging in sex-for-money.
Think about it this way (and I know you have). How many times have you seen a truly mouth-wateringly gorgeous woman with an otherwise unattractive man and thought to yourself, “He must be rich”? See what I mean? Everyone tends to think such a thing is true because we all know it happens so often. Beautiful women have something to sell. So they usually sell it. What do you think strip clubs are all about? Selling a glimpse of beauty, plain and simple. No dating. No flowers. No love. Traditional marriage is like unto prostitution is like unto stripping. They are all just business transactions—and that is all they will ever be unto the end of time.
What is love then? And for that matter, where is it found if not within the institutions we ‘believe’ it is traditionally found? I really do think that love can be found in those usually rare, brief moments of total innocence, openness, gratitude and joy that is created between two or more people, between hearts that have nothing to hide, that possess no selfish intentions of taking from the other(s) involved, and only wish to give to the other with no expectation of reward or reciprocation of any kind. I suspect that the closest anyone can get to experiencing real Love is to just allow a space for it to reside for a moment or two between those involved, to be humble and let it fill you for a while. With practice, I further suspect that such a state can be prolonged until it becomes such an automatic way of being that Love just constantly follows you around, perhaps even flows outwards from you, seeking out those who are also seeking to live the same way.
I suspect that is where Love is found.
Certainly not in prostitution, neither in its illegal form nor the state-sanctioned variety.
