THOSE “THREE LITTLE WORDS”…IS IT REALLY SO DIFFICULT? OH PLEASE!
The silly notions popularized in the modern media concerning the fear of uttering the words “I love you,” to your lover are just silly when carefully examined.
Think about all the ways in which you love your lover. For God’s sake, people seem so quick to let their bodies say it to each other in sundry ways. The language of their bodies says it, the language expressed by their erupting emotions says it, the language conveyed thru various breathing patterns says it,…so why not say it using the language of an audible verbal communication as well? Is it really so different from the other methods of communication? It seems to fit in well with all of the other language patterns being exhibited by the lovers.
Look at it this way. Define the expression of loving as follows: the art and science of focusing one’s complete attention on something and fully expressing one’s total self in that direction of concentration, bringing all of one’s various abilities of communication to bare, leaving no lone ability of communication alone off in another direction. By this definition, it would be stupid to refuse to say ‘I love you’ if one desired to express it—after all, every other part of you is doing the same. So why not express it with the vocal cords?
This intense level of concentration I am referring to is nothing new. Many worldly successful people do this all the time without ever seeming to notice. They just totally focus on a thing until it is acquired. All of their powers and abilities are brought to bear with total attention. That is true devotional love for what you do. That is magic. And anyone can do it. Most people do it anyway. Those who refuse to focus totally are like the lovers afraid to say the words “I love you,” in that they are not ‘following thru’ with the love they are already expressing in every other way imaginable.
Now it is a whole other issue if the partners are so completely immersed within a deep loving trance, the level of communication beings so deeply expressed and experienced, that bothering to speak becomes redundant, if not a burden to have to bother to expend energy using the vocal cords. Again, this situation is an entirely other matter.
If you feel love, feel free to express it in any way that reflects the truth of your experience. Let no one force you to say it if this is not how your own heart wishes to express it at the moment. Say ‘I love you’ only if that is what you feel like doing.
The act of just saying those “3 little words” is not as big a deal as the idiots who control the media attempt to program us to think it is. It is just another level of expression one engages in, nothing more, nothing less. The more the media whores try to make a big deal out of it (usually for the sake of comedy) the more one is likely to ignore it as a genuine avenue to expression.
