GIVING, RECEIVING & DISCOVERING YOUR PROPER DHARMA-WORK
The proper way to be is to give and receive simultaneously. The old saying that it is better to give than to receive is only half right. The proper way is to be in a state of being in which you are giving and receiving at the same time, again simultaneously.
In the proper practice of Tantra the participants are engaged in precisely this activity. The man, the embodiment of the Divine Above, is receiving from God Above while the woman, the embodiment of the Divine Below, is receiving from God Below.
Simultaneously the Man is giving to the woman’s vagina thru his penis while the woman is giving from her heart and/or breasts into the man’s heart.
This creates a cycle within a cycle as it were. While each participant is receiving from God and giving to the partner, each is also receiving from the partner as well in a heart-genital circuit, again a cycle within a cycle.
This is how Heaven meets Earth and Earth meets Heaven. Esoteric scriptures mention bringing Heaven down to Earth and raising up Earthly material thru the help of a Divinity.
So well and good for couples. But what about single people? The process is the same. The difference is that instead of focusing your attention of giving of yourself to a person in particular, you simply give freely of yourself to the whole world. It has been said by a wiser yogi than myself (Sri Yukteswar) that if one rejects the usual responsibilities of marriage and family life, then he/she is obligated to work for the world, to adopt the world so to speak, as his/her own family and serve them all as though they were your own personal family. Paramahansa Yogananda stated it another way at the end of his autobiography with the phrase, “Lord, thou hast given this monk a large family.”
In this singular performance of ‘tantra with the world’ one simply receives from God ideas and feelings and intuitions about how to help raise up the world thru one’s own karma yoga, or dutiful work one does for the world.
Normally what form this work will entail is usually proscribed by a guru or spiritual teacher. For those who do not have access to a teacher, another way is to consult a very talented astrologer. For those who do not have access to this either or else simply do not ‘believe’ in the established validity of the science of astrology, there is another way.
Meditate, meditate, meditate your ass off…until after incredible effort you reach a state of being when you have established a strong connection with God within. When this is done, all one needs to do is to meditate deeply, calm the mind, establish a communication with the Inner Intuition which is the voice of the Divine within the mind, and then simply ask what karma yoga or dutiful work for the world one should be doing.
If this process is done correctly, a quiet answer will come. And if you are receptive to it and do not judge or criticize or outright reject the advice from within, then you will perceive the logic behind the answer, its inherent sensibility.
This last method of discovering your karma yoga is tricky at best. The Ego is more wily than anyone can imagine. It can trick the aspirant time and time again, leading one astray constantly, sometimes even making one think he/she is progressing along the path towards establishing communication with God when in fact the aspirant is going nowhere.
Not being able to determine your own ability to devote yourself to severe meditation, then the best and only advice I can offer is to find a guru or teacher. Good luck. They are in short supply. And they are not given to teaching just anyone.
Other than that last option, I can offer up my sincerest blessings if you choose to go it alone meditating until you establish contact with Divinity. Perhaps with any luck, and with your best effort, you may even attract a teacher or guru with no especial effort on your part to find one.
All depends on the intention of the aspirant. If sincere, fortune will smile. If not…well even I can’t answer that.
Become as selfless as possible. Approach your duty to the world this way. Be giving and you will certainly receive all you need. And perhaps if you do it very well, you may even attract the teacher you need.
